Moving On

I know it's hard but you must move on.  It's the only thing you can do.  I know it hurts and you're crying but hear this: All emotional pain last 12 minutes; everything after that is self inflicted.  What I'm saying is that you're only hurting yourself.  You're causing the crying and sleepless nights by holding on.  Let go and get a life!  Leave them alone for a long time so they can move on too.  Then, maybe one day you'll be friends.  It can happen.  I'm friends with everyone I've ever dated, so take my advice.  It works...I know all!!  Hang out with your friends and have fun.  Maybe you'll find someone new soon enough.  That'll make it that much easier.  And, not only will you feel better about yourself, but you'll be happy.  I swear it!!

Fussing and Fighting

What is it with these couples that just fuss and fight all the time??  It seems like you're never happy with each other and you're always complaining about the other.  They're always doing something that you don't like or getting mad at you for no reason.  If you're always mad at each other then why would you stay together.  Most people respond with "Love."  Well how can you have time to love a person if all you're ever doing is arguing and yelling at them??  Especially if things are drawn to violence, then it's definitely not worth it.  If you really love them that much then try not to fight all the time.  Figure out the problem before you start bashing each other across the head with lamps and televisions.  I'm not saying it will happen but it might (and you'd really love them after that right??).  Solve the problem by either working it out or breaking up because all that whining to your friends all the time is annoying.

Get over it!!

Calling all you persistent people out there:  GET OVER IT!!  Now I know that you "love them with all your heart," and you can stay that way for the rest of your life if you must.  I'm just saying that you need to move on (especially if they have).  Whining, griping, and complaining to the person that has just dumped you is not going to and never will work.  All you're going to do is annoy the living piss out of them until they get so sick of you that they explode all over you.  And when they do you will be left crying again and you will wonder why they were "so mean" to you.  I say, you brought it upon yourself.  You may say, "Well they're being a jerk and ignoring my calls and texts," but let me tell you that there is a reason for it.  Again: I know from experience.

You will look even more pathetic if you keep on bothering them after they have a new boyfriend/girlfriend.  They have someone new and you don't, so how do you look?  Exactly!  Move on and find someone else because they have and: IT'S NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!  If you persist even after they have someone else then you're likely to start some drama.  Maybe you do want to ruin any and all relationships they try to start.  Maybe that's your motive, but it shouldn't be.  No one, I repeat NO ONE likes a person who starts drama.  It's irritating and people will hate you for it.  (I know a few of these people myself)  Trying to start fights and things will not make you any less pathetic or them want you any more.  That's just not how it works.

You will make the situation worse by trying to "talk to them about something," especially after them (and all their friends) tell you to go away and stop trying.  They don't want to get back together with you, you need to understand that.  They're going to continue to ignore you.  I promise.  You should listen the first time and quit making yourself look like a fool.  If their done with you, then they're done with you and nothing you say is going to change their mind.  I promise.  Been there, done that.  But you say, "I can't live without them and they're the love of my life," blah blah snore.  I'm most positive you are one of those people who will find someone else in a couple months who's "the love of your life."  Then you'll forget all about the person you're stuck on at the moment.  Trust me.

"Facebook Love"

Okay, people, listen up!  Posting your relationship problems all over Facebook is not acceptable.  Save the drama for ya moma!  I can't tell you how many times everyday i see somebody fussing out their boyfriend/girlfriend on Facebook.  Why do you put all that crap out there for everybody to see?  Nobody cares!!  It's especially annoying when you see someone constantly posting "I love you" all over somebody's wall.  If you only do it sometimes it's a different story.  Especially referring to the last post i made about "love."  Besides: wouldn't you rather tell that person that you love them yourself?  A Facebook "ily" is so impersonal and means absolutely nothing.  It's so lame (honestly).

Another thing.  "WHY HAVEN'T YOU CHANGED YOUR RELATIONSHIP STATUS???"  People get mad over that stuff!  Why does it matter so much about that?  Just because it don't say that they're "in a relationship" with you don't mean they care about you any less.  That should not be a priority.  (I'm just saying)  Get over it!  It's really hilarious to see someone go from "single" to "in a relationship" to "single" to "in a relationship" to "single" to "engaged" to "married" to "single" to "to engaged" to "single".........well you get the point, all in a week.  What the heck is going on there though?  That's a lot of people to be with (I'm just saying), and you must have really loved at least three of them right?? haha you people kill me!

One thing I feel is quite gross and disgusting are the profile pictures of the two people making out.  It's not cute and no one wants to see it.  You can keep all those intimate moments to yourself before your grandma on Facebook has a heart attack seeing a picture of you acting "inappropriate."  It's even worse when it's from just the angle where you can see the tongues....NASTY!!  You should be reported!

Isn't it so cute how some people always put the initials of the person they're with at the end of every status?  Not really.  It's obsessive and weird (especially if you started dating yesterday).  Yes, we get it.  You're dating whatever-the-heck-his-name-is and that's nice.  You don't have to remind me on the 50 statuses you post everyday.  Maybe you don't realize but nobody has to know (or really cares) every time you take a step by the way (I'm just saying).  Facebook is for keeping up with your friends and family, not stalking them or complaining to everybody about your relationship.  Keep it to yourself!!  It's really no one else's business and I definitely didn't need to know.

My recent findings

I've been noticing something recently and it bothers me.  All these little high school kids so quick to fall in love with everybody they date.  It's a complete obsession that's ridiculous.  I've seen one girl in particular who dated a guy for like a week, was engaged for a few weeks, and then they broke up.  But it was "real love" though you guys.  Another girl: dated a guy for a few weeks, got engaged (even bought wedding rings), then broke up a few weeks after.  Got back together for like two weeks then broke up again.  They were soooo in love, weren't they??

What is it with you kids and commitment? Why are all of you in such a hurry to settle down? You're in high school and some just starting college! This is supposed to be the time of your life and all you can do is worry about whether you have a boyfriend/girlfriend or not? Don't get so invested in a relationship that's only been going on for a few weeks or a couple of months.  It's too soon to be getting obsessed and talking about the rest of your lives together.  You're setting yourselves up for disappointment and heartbreak.  Dating at this age is supposed to be fun and care free.  You're supposed to play the field and not take things too seriously.

Now, I will be the first to say that I am usually not preoccupied with what other people do but this is insanity.  Do you know what the definition of insanity is?  Doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting a different result. It's affecting some people that I care about and quite frankly I'm tired of the whining over nothing.  I guess they don't realize that if they didn't worry about it so much it wouldn't really bother them. Some people date someone for a couple weeks,  fall so in love with them, then they break up and all of a sudden they're ready to kill themselves over it.  A week later they have a new person and the process repeats itself.  One of these girls says quite often that she'll never find anyone and maybe the world would be a better place without her.  She's taking it too seriously.

Seems like I've only been talking about girls here so let's use a guy example.  One guy has been in love with this girl for a while but they never really stay together for long.  She will go date other guys in between and he's killing himself over it.  Every time it happens he always says "I don't give a fuck about nothing!" or "No one cares about me."  Move on! You're too young to be stuck on one person for the rest of your life.  You can be happy with someone else.  I promise.

Now I guess I need to go ahead and mention the part where I used to be one of these kids.  I'm not going to pretend that I've never "been in love" or whatever.  But I guess the relationship that ended the easiest was the one where we just dated and never dropped the L-bomb.  I'm still friends with all the guys I've ever been with because I've gotten over all the crap.  I've realized that all that stuff doesn't matter anymore because it wasn't what we thought.

I'm not trying to say that love is a bad thing, because it's not.  But you need to hold out until you're ready.  It will be so much better if you do.